We set a timer and when the timer goes off he runs upstairs to put on pajamas.
After that, he has 45 minutes to clean up his toys before the next timer goes off.
If he finishes with time left over, he gets to do something fun with Mom or Dad (puzzles, board games, tablet time, horseplay, read books).
If he doesn’t finish, it’s just bedtime. (We do still spend time with him reading books for our normal bedtime routine.)So....by following this plan, the kid can play for 45 minutes after putting on pj's, doesn't have to pick up his toys and he will still get a book read to him??? The only way he would pick up the toys would be if he really wanted to do 'something fun with Mom or Dad.' Which, I'm sure he would do sometimes, but what does this teach the kid? That if he does what he is asked then he gets rewarded, but if he doesn't then he still gets what he wants by being allowed to play? This kind of helps me realize why kids at school don't do what is asked of them immediately. I know spanking is not popular these days, but there has to be some type of punishment even if it's not spanking.
Proverbs 13:24 He that spareth his rod hateth his son; but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.
Proverbs 23:13 Withhold not correction from the child; for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not dies.
Hebrews 12:11 Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievious; nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.
Spanking should not be enjoyable to the parent, nor should a parent spank if they are angry or not in control. It is however a parent's duty to discipline children as they try to raise their children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4).
I rarely have such a strong reaction to someone's statements. If that 'plan' works for them and their child actually picks up his toys in a reasonable time, then great. I don't believe it should take a child 45 minutes to pick up their toys. If they still want to play with some of the toys, fine, set them to the side and pick up the rest. Then go play with the toy if it is not bed time yet. The point is, if you tell a child to do something, the child should do it. I always remember what I read in a Christian parenting book. "Delayed obedience is disobedience."